I recently got a tattoo following my Dad's death just over three months ago now. The tattoo, on my inner wrist, reads WWgmD - it stands for "What Would Grahame Maher (my dad) Do".
Some people have misinterpreted that I concieve it to stand as a reminder that I should live my life or act in the way my Dad would have given himself in the same context or situation. What they fail to recognize is that while a reminder of just how awesome and incredible the impact my Dad managed to achieve in his life time, that is not to say that I mean it to be transferable or directly related to my life as a result. I continue to miss my Dad on a daily, if not at times hourly or what seems almost sometimes, continuous & ongoing basis in my day to day life - but what many people seem to overlook in this context, given the tragic & sadness intrinsic to this & others "stories" is just how beautiful the whole "issue" is in the first place..
I struggle personally as I continue to find myself in situations where being true to oneself, recognising despite all else that we are all each only accountable to ourselves at the end of the day, is all that one has to cling to at times. Knowing at ones core that the actions or behaviours one is choosing to portray at any given time is the best solution can be difficult to remember in 'the heat of the moment' so to speak.
But it can be very difficult at times, particularly knowing that many many people will take a long time or a great deal of explaination to believe that being, at times almost what would seem cocky or arrogoant, despite the desire not to, is all there is. Saying something & believing it in your moments of weakness, which we all at times have, are very different. Sometimes I remind others of things I am trying to convince myself off as it is all one can really do at times, to continue to make sure I can ride out the bad and "keep the faith".
RIP Grahame Maher (7 Jul, 1959 - 2 Nov, 2010)
Dad had many great interviews and quotes from his work while he was alive that I could reference here have already been posted on the Facebook page, "memorial" website of sorts I created or somewhere else online in his memory...
"ITS ALL ABOUT ASKING "WHY?" HAVE THE COURAGE TO ASK WHY, WHEN THEY SAY "JUST BECAUSE", KEEP ASKING "WHY?" AND IF THEY CAN'T ANSWER YOU, SEND ME AN EMAIL CAUSE I WANT TO HELP YOU ASK WHY. IF THEY DON"T LISTEN AND YOU THINK ITS FUNDAMENTALLY WRONG, EXERCISE YOUR DEMOCRATIC RIGHT AND JUST LEAVE." - Grahame Maher